Being a sexual empath shapes the orgasmic experience into an emotionally charged journey. The intense connection with a partner’s energy elevates the pleasure of orgasm but may also leave a lingering sense of emotional fatigue. Experiencing a mind-blowing orgasm involves not only the physical release but also absorbing and reflecting a partner’s emotions.
“Sexual empaths are people whose energetic level intensifies during sexual activity. It dramatically affects the way they connect with others during sexual experiences because they can deeply connect with their partner’s sexual energy,” said Kasey King, LMFT.
The exchange of energies during orgasm may involve absorbing both the ecstasy and potential negative emotions, adding a layer of complexity to the post-orgasmic experience.
King is a marriage and sex therapist located in Fort Worth, TX. She owns a private practice, Lavender Healing Center, that offers relationship, sex therapy, and healing services to clients located in Texas and Mississippi. King spoke with xoNecole about what sex is like for a sexual empath, the impact of sexual empathy on orgasm, and navigating sex with a sexual empath.
What Sex is Like for a Sexual Empath?
Engaging in sex as a sexual empath can be emotionally intense, leading to a sense of depletion. The empathic experience extends beyond physical release, often requiring a period of emotional recharge to restore balance.
“Because of their ability to absorb and give energy, sex can be euphoric but also leave you feeling empty and not in a pleasing way,” King explained.
For a sexual empath, managing the emotional aftermath is essential to maintaining their well-being and preserving the depth of connection in future intimate encounters.
“Common patterns after sex are not always the same. Aftercare can look different for sexual empaths. While some empaths feel a deeper connection, others can disconnect and shut down. As a sexual empath, it may be important to discuss your post-sex desires before sex so you aren’t left feeling used, and the experience is not one-sided,” King recommended.
The Impact of Sexual Empathy on Orgasm
The drained sensation experienced by a sexual empath after sex extends to their orgasmic encounters. While the orgasm itself is a powerful culmination of physical and emotional elements, the aftermath leaves the empath in need of a thoughtful recovery. Their intense emotions can lead to a sense of emotional and physical fatigue.
“The exchange of their energy during orgasm is not always beautiful. You can have a mind-blowing orgasm and absorb your partner’s negative energy while they are now rejuvenated. It is important to be mindful of your sexual partner’s stress and emotional availability while engaging in sexual activity to ensure you are getting what you need as well,” King said.
King shared that orgasms differ from other sexual empaths and can be more intense with other sexual empaths.
“Since sexual empath’s energies are highly sensitive, it is easier to pick up each other’s cues regarding pleasure, resistance, and anxiety,” she said.” Orgasms with similar energies are also more powerful and meaningful for that reason. When a sexual empath has sex with a non-sexual empath, orgasms may still occur. However, it may look different because energy is not always shared and understood. Non-sexual empaths can still provide their [sexual empath] partners with an intense orgasm because they took the time to understand what their partner needs.”
Unfortunately, if a non-sexual empath doesn’t take the time to understand their partner’s needs, then their needs go unmet. And when the needs of a sexual empath are unmet, emotional disconnection ensues, and it casts a shadow over the intimacy in the relationship.
“Since sexual empaths feel on a deeper level and can meet the needs of their partner easily, they push their needs aside. [Sexual empaths] may fall into the role of ‘people pleaser‘ or unintentionally sexually submissive. As a ‘people pleaser,’ sexual empaths can also misread the sexual experience and be left feeling foolish and unfulfilled,” King revealed.
Navigating Sex with a Sexual Empath
Navigating sex with a sexual empath as a non-empath involves fostering open communication and mutual understanding. Recognizing and respecting the empath’s heightened sensitivity to emotions is crucial. Prioritize clear verbal and non-verbal communication to ensure both partners feel heard and connected. Establishing trust and creating a safe space for emotional expression contributes to a fulfilling and harmonious sexual experience, allowing the unique dynamics of the empathic connection to flourish.
“As a marriage and sex therapist, I first assess a couple’s sexual connectedness, then discuss their individual meaning of sex, which often differs,” said King.
“In relationships where one partner is a sexual empath, practical exercises can include explaining your sexual cues because the non-sexual empath can often misunderstand them. Also, mutually engaging in non-penetrative intercourse to learn each other’s needs, desires, and kinks on a deeper level,” she added.
King noted that being a sexual empath doesn’t necessarily mean your energy is shared equally or with a deserving partner.
“Sexual empaths can get sucked in, which may complicate the relationship. Empaths give freely yet aren’t always verbally expressive. To heighten your sexual experience and have an amazing orgasm, ensure pleasure is not only expressed but understood. Know that you are deserving to receive what you give.”
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