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I was brought up in a house in a conservative area. Since childhood I have been determined to question existing social norms. In my region, the idea of ’Shareef Gharana’ or a respected family is so great that it reminds me of a couplet from Mustaq Ahmad Yusufi: “Shareef Gharano Mai aayi Hui Dulhan Aur Janwar Toh Marr Kar Hi Nikalte Hai. “
The prevalence of the caste or Radari system In my region, people in the top box demonstrates who dominate their culture and norms. The assimilation in their culture creates obstacles to socialization, development and growth. It is crystal clear that the dominance of the upper caste in an area shapes its culture.
I had my primary school in an English monastery school, in which I lacked the motivation and support of the same age and teachers to work on my weaknesses. I would go to a coaching center to meet other students in order to escape the embarrassment in the class and find friends, but have been in the center when it became days in years, I became part of a joke. I remember when I was ridiculed by my teacher in the classroom of the coaching center. You said: “Why don’t you take home science and learn some delicious recipes from your mother?”
The mockery shook me to a great extent and let me question my value, because although I tried to become good in studies, I couldn’t become a better student. In the attempt to achieve formal education, native education was taught to me. However, my commitment and hard work drove me to unprecedented heights. In the midst of the patriarchal incomparations, I turned into a non -conformist.
It is therefore obvious that domestic education is no longer limited to houses in which they live. It went beyond its limits and was recorded in educational institutions. “Shareef Gharana” and domestic education are connected and create the concept of idealization. It is largely assumed that an ideal -trained woman stays at home to educate ideal children and undergo the decisions of her husband. A girl is expected to give up her efforts and take her sole responsibility for the household. In fact, I am used to hearing a lot: “Beta, Khana Pakana Aur Khilana Hi Kaam Aayega.”
Fortunately, I had an agency to get admission to a central university, although I grew up within the patriarchal parameters. It is true that I could not develop this bond with my father that I wish I could. Although he is not progressive, his perspective is not to be trained, not like many other patriarchs.
When I decided to be inscribed at a central university, it was a proud moment for me because no girl in my family had been on a higher educational institution and stayed outside. I chose Aligarh Muslim University, but a great conviction was thrown against the decision of my relatives because I was a girl.
Before I write on the AMU, I was not aware that it was difficult to be expressive in the name Tehzeeb, as the educational institution is known. Reading books and articles helped me to use the socio -political awareness that enables us to critically understand our social environment, to take an attitude and to remain expressive. In the end, I examined Islamic studies that have taught me that education is of essential importance for everyone to develop their own identity and to oppose the exploitation and injustice, and the sociology that gave me its clarity.
During my master’s program at you, I was able to learn something about work and gender history from some of the most remarkable historians. From this point on, I was interested in connecting the two to examine how people are pushed on the edges. It became clear to me that apolitical means to miss the critical analysis in order to deal deeply into the core causes of the marginalization and invisibility of the people.
My changing perspective helps me to grasp Shareef and Tehzeeb, which are used to maintain the dominant power supply system. That is my feminist joy.
As a student of history at the University of Delhi, Nashra Rehman is always enthusiastic to share
Your understanding of gender history and a link between past and the present. It is high
Passionate to convey in the awakening of minds that refer to “how and why women are
Marginalalized ”through their publications.