Do you feel lonely? Many of us do, even if we don’t want to admit it. The Surgeon General Vivek Murthy released an advisory illuminating the dangers of loneliness, where he states, “It is associated with a greater risk of cardiovascular disease, dementia, stroke, depression, anxiety, and premature death.”
Loneliness is a deeply human experience that can affect anyone, particularly us women over 60, as life transitions like retirement, empty nesting, or loss of loved ones can diminish our social connections. Loneliness is the emotional pain of feeling disconnected or isolated, even when surrounded by others. For many, it can feel like an invisible barrier to joy and fulfillment. Yet we can find meaningful ways to combat loneliness and rediscover our purpose and greater happiness.
Understanding Loneliness
Loneliness is not just about being alone but about lacking meaningful connections. It can manifest both emotionally and physically, leading to feelings of sadness, low energy, or even health issues such as higher blood pressure or weakened immunity. Recognizing loneliness is the first step in addressing it.
Sometimes the hardest part is finding the self-motivation to make adjustments. Maybe give yourself one small commitment a week to try something – anything – that makes you feel just a little less lonely.
The three keys to reducing loneliness:
- Relationships keep us grounded and bonded to each other.
- Service, from formal volunteering to informal small acts of kindness, is about helping each other.
- Purpose gives our life a sense of direction and meaning.
Together, these elements form the triad of fulfillment.
Practical Ways to Combat Loneliness
Reconnect with Interests
Rediscover activities you enjoy or try something new, such as painting, gardening, or learning an instrument. I am taking beginner piano lessons. Engaging in opportunities you enjoy boosts confidence and provides places to meet like-minded people.
Join Social Groups
Community centers, book clubs, fitness classes, or religious groups are wonderful places to connect with others who share similar interests.
Volunteer
Helping others not only contributes to a sense of purpose but also introduces you to people with compassionate hearts.
Leverage Technology
Video calls, online classes, or social media can help you stay in touch with family and friends, or connect with others globally, such as the wonderful community of Sixty and Me!
Adopt a Pet
Finally, caring for a furry friend can provide companionship and bring daily joy. Whether you choose to care for a cat, a dog or something more to your liking, it will both give you a responsibility and a new purpose to live.
Finding Joy
Joy can come from gratitude and connection. I start and end each day with three thoughts of gratitude. Start a daily gratitude journal, savor moments in nature, or seek out small pleasures like a favorite book or a warm cup of tea. Remember, building relationships and prioritizing self-care can reignite your sense of purpose and help combat loneliness.
Life after 60 can be filled with many vibrant opportunities for connecting with others; why not embrace them!?
Let’s Have a Conversation:
Do you feel lonely sometimes? What do you do in such moments? What causes your loneliness? Have you had periods in life where you constantly feel lonely? What proactive steps have you taken to battle this mindset?